Last Christmas I got into a horrible argument with my older brother about politics which led to random other topics like parenting decisions. Judgments were tossed around so easily and the moment was awkward and we didn’t speak for months after that. Christmas was ruined.
I eventually thought, “What am I doing? What’s the purpose? Why am I so angry over stupid things?” Life is too short to spend it so angry at someone. I thought I was being so big and strong by holding my ground but in the end, it drove me crazy thinking about it, so what good is that? I decided to call him and apologize for what was said on my end. It was uncomfortable at first but we decided to agree to disagree on some things and make amends.
This year I’m really looking forward to family gatherings. There isn’t any tension there, the kids love to play together and I’m hoping for some good old belly laughs like there used to be among our family. My brother and I email, text and call each other on a regular basis now, especially looking forward to Christmas. I’m so thankful I swallowed my pride and made that call. Life is so much better without bitterness. God bless! Denise
What wonderful thoughts shared by Denise. If there is someone you’re warring with or begrudging or judging, I hope you’ll consider her words because wasting time holding a grudge with someone you love isn’t worth it. You’ll only put more lines on your face that way! So make the call and be the peacemaker – at least try. There has never been a better time than right now.
I’m thankful for:
Warm socks that keep my feet toasty warm in the chilly weather.
Music, which is a wonderful form of self expression and comfort.
Smart phones which keep me connected to the people I love with very little effort.
Clean water that flows freely from a faucet.
Emergency services, medical personnel and volunteers that aid in medical emergencies and disasters.
Books that provide entertainment, warm my heart, or challenge my thinking.
Creativity, imagination and God-given gifts of talent.
Chocolate to satisfy my sweet tooth.
Airplanes, the miracle in the sky taking us to our loved ones faster.
People who have a wicked sense of humor and keep me laughing.
I’m guilty of being quick to speak, slow to think. I’ve said things I regret that I can’t take back. I’ve fallen short many times. And that’s why I’m writing this little reminder today: Don’t let anger get the best of you. By the “best of you” I mean don’t let anger make you become something you’re not. Don’t become violent or verbally abusive toward others. Don’t become a bully. Don’t make people feel inferior. Don’t make them feel unloved.
The “best of you” reacts differently. The “best of you” is slow to react and quick to forgive. The “best of you” will use your words in a positive way. The “best of you” may be so angry at something that warrants discipline…but continues to show love and explains how you discipline out of love. The “best of you” never tears anyone down with childish name calling. The next time you get angry with someone, whether it’s a co-worker, friend, stranger or your own child, think about how the “best of you” would respond in that situation. Just a thought.
My godson Ryan who builds computers for a living and knows everything about the Internet looked at this man in shock, like he might actually be looking at a cave man from the Stone Age. Ryan who has never not known what’s it’s like to be “connected” at all times said, “How is that you don’t own a computer?”
I explained to Ryan that Joe and I lived much of our lives without computers and a majority of our lives without Internet. It’s hard for young people to believe we survived those simpler times. Just like our ancestors before us survived without TV and our ancestors before them survived without radio (gasp!).
I love electronics and I’m grateful for technology but I also realize life is too short to spend it in front of gadgets all day. It’s a constant battle for me to get my teenage sons off the computer but they will thank me someday when they realize their childhood memories include camping and hiking and swimming and running and playing and exploring instead of video games and status updates.
You only get this one life, make some memories with the people you love today! When you can get outside for some fresh air and a game of Frisbee, or a pretty hike, do it…and leave the technology inside. It's good for your body and soul.
Take a hike, walk or bike on a trail.
Blend a smoothie with frozen mixed berries and add some kale or spinach for good measure.
Buy a new book.
Make an appointment with a nutritionist or a masseuse.
Treat your senses with a fresh-scent candle.
Get a new lipstick, nail polish, or eye shadow and try out a new color today.
Go see the latest hit movie.
Go buy a new kitchen gadget you’ve been eyeing.
Visit a friend.
Visit a free admission festival, fair or museum.
Put your feet in the lake, the ocean, or a nearby stream.
Can you add a few ideas to this list? What simple act would put a smile on your face after a long Monday? Email your list to me at D@Delilah.com. And be sure to tune into my show later on so I can reward you with some great love songs and stories on the radio.