It's hard to be on the wrong end of an argument, believe me I know! Even after you’ve realized you’re wrong, it’s tough to back down and say, “Okay, I see your point, you’re right.” Choking down your pride is not an easy thing to do. But there is a saying I heard many years ago that has stayed with me to this day and I like to remind couples and friends that…it is better to effective than to be right.
Let that sink in for a moment. If what you truly desire in your life is joy and happiness and strong relationships, being right all the time doesn’t make any of those things work. Being effective in coming to a resolution does. And you’re going to be more effective as a reasonable, loving person than someone who just wants to be right no matter the consequence. Life is far too short to have a need to be right all the time and sacrifice love, friendships and family relationships because of it.
So ask yourself: In your relationships, are you trying to be right more often than you are trying to be effective? If you answered yes, then STOP. Stop fighting, stop fussing and be a more effective friend, parent or spouse. I’ve pried into the lives of enough people to know it’s just not worth the heartache.
Don’t wait until next New Year’s Eve to resolve to change something in your life. Do it today. Start today. If you stumble and fall, start again the next day. But at least try to eliminate the bad habits in your life, if not just for you, for the people who love you.
Wake up every day and give thanks for the people in your life. Be grateful for everything you have, and consider that there is someone out there who would rather be in your shoes. Remember that the next time you don’t feel blessed enough.
Be grateful for the negative situations in your life and tell yourself you’ll learn from this. I’ve discovered when you have an attitude of gratitude about the tough stuff, all of a sudden, problems begin to resolve, solutions show up, friends come beside you, relationships are healed…
What are you grateful for today? I have so many, many, many things to be grateful for, even some tough stuff. Some heartbreak and some trials and tribulations. But thru it all, I can see God doing miracles in my family. What is he doing in your life?
It’s also true in life: you reap what you sow. If you sow seeds of anger and discontent and divisiveness; if you gossip, backbite, say negative things and try to put wedges between people, guess what you’re going to reap? You’re not going to harvest sweet pumpkins of happiness. You’re going to harvest a big crop of misery. But if you encourage, uplift, motivate, say kind things and do kind things for people, you will grow new friendships, stronger relationships, and a happier circle of people around you.
If this note hits close to home, make a decision today to stop stirring up trouble and saying negative things about people. Stop causing strife within the family. Stop pitting one friend against another friend. If you’re doing anything like this, just stop. Sow the seeds of love and forgiveness and encouragement, instead, and your life will harvest a bounty of happiness.
Eliminate stress. Just say no to extra obligations if it’s cutting into family time or you time. Walk away from stressful situations and toxic people whenever you can.
Make time for yourself. What do you like to do? Do more of it this year.
Stop comparing yourself to others. An instant relief and calm will come when you realize you are good enough and you are wonderful!
Invest in face time. Invest in friendships and relationships and getting together every so often, even if it’s just a coffee break. You deserve to have that face time with someone and build that companionship.
Invest in your gifts. Your talents. Your strengths. This is part of making time for yourself. Again, do more of what you love to do this year.
Be kind. Don’t let the daily stress trickle down to people you come in contact with. Be kind, be nice, share a smile, hold the door. Be a positive force in the day.
Reflect. Pray. Meditate. Whichever one suits you and helps you release your fears, your thoughts, your gratitudes. Again, take this time for you. (See the pattern here?)
What would you add to the list? Are you making any life changes or setting any life goals for 2013? Did you make some big changes last year? Email me and tell me what’s on your heart for the New Year. You can reach me at D@Delilah.com, text me at 48484, or call me at 1-888-633-5452.